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Monday, August 28, 2006

Baby Birth, Part 2

Since I got so many great comments from my Friday's post, I thought I would address some here instead of in the comments section. (Warning: long post)

Loelsh: Thank you so much for being so supportive! I would have loved to of had your mom (my mil) in with me for a third baby birth. I just think that it a great way for mom's to bond with their daughters. There is nothing like it! I know my mom has experienced the birth of her own children, but she has never seen someone else birth a child...let alone her first born. I know my hubby G will be very supportive, but because my mom raised me, she offers a different kind of support. She has seen 26 years of ups and downs and sometimes knows me better than I know myself. So she would bring something new to the operating room.

Jennboree: I def want to discuss this further with my hubby. I think I'll start a pros and cons list with him so that we can get all our feelings out without a fight. I def don't want him dreading (even if in a small way) the birth of our second one just because his mil is there.

Also, with any baby deliver, there can be complications. If something did go wrong, I think my mom would be less of a mess than my hubby would be. She is also my prayer warrior. My hubby could concentrate on just me while my mom would be calling everyone to ask for prayer. So I think it would actually be a good thing for my mom to be there just in case something did go wrong.

And I love the fact that C-sections don't take a lot of time to perform. I think it's so much better for my mom to experience that than to have her in a delivery room for who knows how many hours of labor (I was told with my first one that I would prob go through at least 24-36 hours of labor and then still have a very high chance of still needing a C-sec). Plus, with the operation, she doesn't have to see me in pain. So, on that note, I'm glad my hubby and possibly my mom don't have to experience a birth other than the wonderful C-sec!

My hubby G: Thank you for your extra long comment! I appreciate knowing more about how you feel about this subject. But it's true, only my belly will be exposed. By the time you are allowed in, all my other parts are covered up to keep it more sanitary in the operating room. My mom wants to see everything, unlike you, so she will see the doctor open my C-sec scar, as well as some of my inner parts. She def handles blood better than you, so she can tell me exactly what is going on. She might even make me brave enough to request the mirror (which I denied the first time) so I can watch as well!

I think my mother contributed to our child's conception by conceiving me in the first place! Without her, I wouldn't be here baby. And because this is such a special moment in our life, I think it would be fantastic to be able to share it with not only my wonderful hubby, but with someone who I also love very much. I def want to take advantage of the fact that I can have two people in the room with me to support me and to see the miracle of birth.

I know we are both planners, so maybe I should have brought this up earlier. But I knew you wouldn't like it G, no matter when I wanted to talk about it. It just took me a couple of months to build up my courage to ask you. And now we have two long months to discuss it further. I don't want to hurt your feelings or argue with you about this subject, so if you really, really don't want my mom with us, than fine. I am the one having the baby, but you are the daddy and your opinion means a lot to me. But I just want you to think about it for a while. Since I have put a few years thought into this, you deserve time to think about it as well...even if only for two months. Please don't keep saying no until truly considering the idea.

Captain Picard: I def know my mom can handle seeing everything that will take place in the operating room. She is one of the strongest people I know. She is okay with seeing blood and I have never heard of her passing out before. I have discussed with her about her being there with me, and she is most definitely looking forward to seeing everything...that is, if she is allowed to be there! :-)

Shannon: My hubby and I are very modest people (him more so with me). With my first child, I only wanted female doctors in the operating room with me. But by the time I was on the table, I didn't care who was with me. All I cared about was my unborn son and getting him out of me safe and sound. Having my son def brought me out. Because I boob-feed, I became used to having parts semi-exposed in front of family. I was so modest, before the birth of my son, that I refused to where tank-tops cause they showed too much skin. But my boy changed all that, so I would love to have my mom see all she cares to see (which, according to her, is everything!) with us in the operating room. Plus, my hubby and I had that special alone time in the operating room with our first, but now I want to do something a little different with this one.

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This is just something that my hubby and I need to discuss further. I know I would love to have that bonding time with my mom and to see her excited face the first time she sees her new grandson, but it's a decision that my hubby needs to be comfortable with. I know I'm the one having the baby, but my hubby did help make him after all, so his opinion means the world to me. I just hope we don't wait till the day before the operation to make a decision! :-)

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Blogger Jennboree said...

Hey, even till time you are wheeled into the operating room, you can change your mind :)

True about the modesty part. I was very modest till the day I had Bella. Now I just want the best care possible and don't mind if it is man, woman or alien who does it!

August 28, 2006 12:45 PM

 
Blogger Living Life in South Carolina said...

I'll be praying for wisdom and agreement between you and your husband. I'm hoping for my mom to be able to join me this time too. I've been told hospital policy is 1 person, but I'm going to beg!

August 28, 2006 10:02 PM

 
Blogger ghraper said...

So what you're saying is, the quicker I give in, the easier my life will be?

August 29, 2006 11:37 PM

 
Blogger Trinity13 said...

I def know this Jennboree, but I'm a planner...so I hope it doesn't happen that way!

Thank you very much SC! I appreciate it!!!

Ha ha G, very funny.

August 30, 2006 8:15 AM

 

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