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Thursday, January 05, 2006

Autistic Boy Update

Since it's Thursday, I had the autistic boy this morning. He is not doing so well again. He behaves so-so with me...depending on his mood. This morning he was tired, so he was acting up. He smacked me a few times and he was stemming quite a bit. Usually when he acts up, I take him for a drive. This morning it really calmed him down...thank the Lord!

This morning he was an angel compared to how he is with the other care taker. He hits, kicks, bites, and pinches her ALL the time. With her he pulls down the window blinds, tears down doors (he broke the front door just yesterday), throws the tv to the floor, and screams at her. She is fed up and is about ready to quit. And I was in her place a few months ago. He was an angel with her and fought with me. It switches every few months...and it needs to stop all together!

Something drastic needs to happen with this kid. His parents have tried many new medications and they all seem to work...for a little while. His body gets used to the meds and then they stop working.

He really needs to settle down...especially since his mom is pregnant! She had tried for 6 years before having him (and had several miscarriages-including twins). She then had another miscarriage when he was young. She got on the pill and come to find out (after being on the pill 4 years) she's pregnant-and due in June. This was totally unexpected and she was scared at first. But now she is past the risk point and is starting to get excited.

Her hubby is VERY upset with her being pregnant. It sounds like he wants her to take care of the baby...if you know what I mean. She def does not want to do this. She will leave her hubby before that will happen. This morning she was even asking me for info about my apartment complex.

So, I'm not sure what's going to happen with this family. I don't know if they will stay together. I don't know if they are going to send their autistic son into a special home. I just don't know what the future holds for them. And I don't know what I can do for this family besides pray for them.

Blogger ghraper said...

Pray, pray, PRAY!

January 06, 2006 12:59 AM

Blogger Im Chele In LA said...

oh wow that is a hard one...
over from Michele's

January 06, 2006 1:28 AM

Blogger WendyWings said...

It sounds like the only thing you can do is pray and hope for the best.

January 06, 2006 2:05 AM

Blogger Chrixean said...

Oh my...that does seem like a difficult situation. You are right, best you can do is pray for this family, and extend whatever support the mom my need. She definitely needs someone to be there to listen right now, given that she's pregnant and is in a very emotional state. I will help you pray for them as well :-)

January 06, 2006 4:57 AM

Blogger Viamarie said...

I admire your patience. Taking care of this type of children can be depressing. I am glad you are able to handle him well. For the mom, yes I will help you pray too. With God nothing is impossible.

January 06, 2006 8:43 AM

Blogger Princess21 said...

That is just awfull!! I will pray for them!!!

January 06, 2006 9:58 AM

Blogger Last Girl On Earth said...

What an intense situation. And what a terrible position that family is in. Very sad. Michele sent me. Hope you have a good weekend.

Last Girl On Earth

January 06, 2006 11:02 AM

Blogger Father of 3 said...

I have friends in this exact situation. They finally had to put the boy in an institution and visit him 3 x a week. It was the only option because the sibs were getting hurt.

I did a lot of work with autistic kids. #1. You can never get mad at them. EVER. It's not possible for them to act normal. It's like asking someone to wiggle their ears. Not possible. #2. Subtle changes in the diet can help. Preservatives and additives like BHT and BHA (?) make it much worse.

3. Prayers. Love. and Patience. <--Tons of these.

January 06, 2006 11:09 AM

Blogger Barbara said...

I hope the parents get counseling to strengthen their marriage. The children need them.

January 06, 2006 12:23 PM

Blogger Shelley said...

I will certainly pray for this situation. Besides the parents, it sounds like you have a very tough job. Hang in there! Have a great weekend!

January 06, 2006 2:19 PM

Blogger Becky said...

Wow. That's a tough situation and I can't imagine being in it. I can understand the husband's concern, but she was on the pill, after all. And it takes two to tango! I give you a lot of credit for watching him, for you must have a lot of patience and a kind heart.

January 06, 2006 3:34 PM

Blogger Zachary said...

oh wow i couldnt even imagine what she is going through. Hopefully everything works out for her in the end. my prayers are with her and her family

January 06, 2006 4:30 PM

Blogger Texas_Ivy10 said...

Scary situation and a somewhat sad. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family!

January 06, 2006 5:50 PM

Blogger Better Safe Than Sorry said...

i'd say they need some counselling, this is a pretty serious turn of events.

January 06, 2006 9:20 PM

Blogger Jean-Luc Picard said...

It's a difficult situation, Trin.

January 07, 2006 12:29 PM

Blogger Stranger in a Strange Land said...

I spent just over a year as a behavioral specialist working one on one with at-risk kids. I had a kindergartener and a first grader that I worked with at school. It was so draining that I had trouble giving my own kids time after I got home.

January 07, 2006 10:50 PM

Blogger Trinity13 said...

I will def pray everyone! And thank you all for your prayers concerning this family.

It's hard after so long to not get mad at him Fof3. Everyone has their breaking point...and his mom is at hers. But at least she doesn't expect her son to ever be normal, unlike the dad.

And we know not to give him too much bread. I guess the yeast effects his system.

Oh, thanks for the link!

They def need counseling Barbara and BSTS!

Thanks for the kind words Shelley and Becky.

It has actually helped me with my son Stranger. I now appreciate every day that he is healthy!

January 08, 2006 8:04 PM


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